Along with the rest of the world I am beyond excited to see the film adaptation of Stephen Chbosky’s novel, The Perks of Being a Wallflower. But as much as Logan Lerman, Emma Watson, Ezra Miller and the rest of the amazing cast make me want to embrace my inner wallflower, of getting lost in my own head and people watching (admit it you always find yourself staring at people,) I can’t help but think how awesome it is to get involved with people, activities and life in general. As my old high school leadership slogan went, “No Deposit, No Return”. (Wow something from high school actually stuck!)
Here are my tips on how to break away from being a wallflower, make friends and try cool new things.
1. Go ahead and say hi to the person sitting next to you. Ask them a question about your class as an icebreaker. Chances are they don’t want to be sitting alone in class either.
2. Put down the phone! Don’t pretend to be preoccupied to try and avoid awkward interactions with people. You are actually making it more awkward! Who knows they could be an instant friendship or your soul mate!
3. Get out of your comfort zone and put yourself out there. Join a club you might never have thought of joining, take an art class, volunteer, or actually talk to your co-workers. It will pay off.
4. Start slow. Maybe give up one of your TV shows a week and rekindle a lost friendship over coffee. You can always watch the show later on demand but it’s easier to rekindle a friendship before too much time passes.
5. Love certain books, television shows, genres, sports, singing etc? It’s a lot easier to open up and talk to people with similar interests when you share passions. Leave the comfort of your bedroom and check out events happening in your local city, at cafes, bookstores or open mic nights.
6. While at a party, do you find yourself sitting alone on the couch watching everyone else? Parties are a great place to talk to somebody new because most of the time everyone is talking in groups that are easy to join in. Also, people are having fun at parties so they are a lot more welcoming to new faces. Join that group dancing to music instead of sitting alone eating chips.
After all, the more you put into something, the more you’ll get out of it.
“No Deposit, No Return”